Recently I found myself reading A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson and I was instantly deeply connected to the message behind the book. I was pretty exciting when I discovered Marianne was coming to Australia and I was fortunate enough to attend her lecture in Melbourne in July. This post is a reflection on Marianne’s wisdom from that day.
The ego is that false belief that we are separate from each other. It breeds the temptation within us to perceive others and the world without love and this illusion Marianne says is the root of all evil. The illusion however is not real and neither are its effects. We need to shift from body identification to spirit identification. The illusion does not mean that we should deny the material world but rather that we should appreciate and be grateful for the beauty of the world. This should be the rule and not the exception!
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we have learned here. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts.”
– Marianne Williamson
The universe is intentional. An embryo turns into a baby. An acorn turns into an oak tree. A bud turns into a blossom. This is the natural intelligence of the universe. However, the difference between this and us humans is that we have the free will to say NO. Most people take themselves too seriously, but they do not take life seriously enough.The difficulty is not with the principles or the tools, the difficulty lies with getting over our resistance to changing our ways and our perceptions.
Magic is asking the universe for what you want, Miracles are what happen when you ask the universe how you can serve. Once you know that you need nothing, you can have everything and anything. Happiness is a decision and not a result of circumstances. We are here to unlearn this thought system which dominates the world and return to love. That is enlightenment.
The ego speaks first and loudest. It is suspicious as best and viscous at worst. We often think we have to attack the darkness with a baseball bat like we are going into battle. However, Marianne quite simply pointed out that fear and darkness is simply the absence of light and love – so all we have to do is turn on the light! That was such an a-huh moment for me and a real moment of clarity.
Marianne told us that the answer to everything is to meditate. This helps us to reconnect with our intuition and to hear the guidance. It purifies our mind so that we can be rid of the illusions of the world. The ego mind is your own power pitted against you and this is why it is very important that we reconnect with our intuition regularly. Given that your mind is at its most open in the morning, this is a powerful time to meditate and will set you up for the day. It will give you a greater probability that you will not lean towards the ego.
“The answer to everything is to meditate.”
– Marianne Williamson
One of the hot topics for the day was women wanting to know why they keep attracting the same type of man. Marianne pointed out that the universe heals us through relationships and by asking this question, the universe will (out of love) put a magnifying glass on your relationships with men and show you why you keep attracting the same man. This is so that eventually you can no longer be in denial about your own behaviour. Likewise when that voice inside our head screams “NO ONE IS GOING TO TREAT ME THIS WAY!”, this is the ego speaking and by saying this – this is what you will attract.
You are destined to meet X, Y and Z persons, but what you do with that relationship is reliant upon your own free-will. Sometimes the lesson is to stay and sometimes the lesson is to go. It is not up to you what you will learn, but it is up to you whether you will learn through joy or through pain.
Of course a man will show you his wounds, because the purpose of the relationship is to heal. The ego will judge him and will see this as a reason to reject him. Yet the universe brought you together because you trigger each others’ wounds, for the sole purpose of healing in the presence of compassion and non-judgement. There are only two emotions – love, or fear.Nothing else has meaning, except the meaning that we ascribe to it. If you are feeling attacked or judged in the relationship, or like your needs are not being met, ask yourself: What am I not giving? Where am I judging? Because only what you are not giving can be lacking.
It is not our job to judge, to scold or to make others feel guilty. You have to be in your ego to be able to see someone elses. If you perceive others by their wounds, you will continue to be trapped by your own wounds. Mercy is understanding that the other person WILL make mistakes, as will you. If their actions do not come from a place of love, then it is simple a call for love. Until you see them with love, you cannot understand them. If you release them and allow them to be who they need to be, you can see clearly and let them go if need be.
“Until we have seen someone’s darkness, we don’t really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone’s darkness, we don’t really know what love is.”
– Marianne Williamson