MEAN GIRL (noun). That negative, fear-based voice inside your head saying you can’t do something. She is the reason you haven’t gone after your dreams. She’s the voice that says you’re not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, you will never meet the guy, get out of debt or heal. She is the doubt, the ego, the fear and justifier–everything negative that stops you from living the epic life you’ve always imagined.
After reading Melissa Ambrosini’s book, Mastering Your Mean Girl, I knew I had to share the 7 lessons I took away from this amazing book.
Choose Love over Fear
Every decision we make comes from one choice; to do things from a place of love or from a place of fear. Mastering your inner Mean Girl means choosing love over fear in each and every moment; but it’s a moment to moment shift.
A great question to ask yourself when you feel stuck is: ‘What would love do right now?’.
Flex Your Self-Love Muscle
Contrary to popular belief(?!) self-love is not selfish, self-indulgent or arrogant. Self-love is the art of loving yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally. It is really about cultivating a meaningful relationship with yourself, which is achieved by flexing your self-love muscle every single day.
This means committing to a daily practice of doing something that lights you up and connects you back to yourself. Things like meditation and gratitude, yoga and getting out in nature, buying yourself some flowers and taking yourself on a date, help you to strengthen that muscle. Let go of your expectations and allow yourself to open up to the infinite possibilities and magic that is available to each and every one of us.
Dial up your Worthy-O-Meter
How worthy you feel is reflected in every area of your life and can impact upon your health, relationships, career, finances. Think of yourself as the director, producer and leading lady of your own life movie, which is your permission to think big!
Remember that your actions today affect your life tomorrow because you’re creating your life moment-by-moment, so if you don’t like what you’re creating then you can create again.
Your Gift to the World
When you are simply being yourself you are so much more powerful than you know! Everyone around you may have an opinion and that is okay but bear in mind that what other people think of you is NONE of your business. Don’t let the fear of what other people think stop you from following your heart. Being resilient means staring your Mean Girl in the eyes and saying ‘I see you, but I am not willing to let you win’ but be patient because it takes patience and courage.
Drop the F Bomb Like It’s Hot
The key to your freedom is forgiveness! When you practice non-judgment and letting go – whether it’s for someone else or yourself – you are freeing yourself the anger, resentment and pain that you have being holding onto. If you can learn to meet others with an understanding in your heart and know that everyone is doing the best they can with their knowledge and understanding at any given time, that is truly freeing.
Be a Trailblazer
Celebrate your quirks and your eccentricities rather than hiding them. When you deny your truth you are actually dimming the light within you. Vulnerability is what makes people lean in and connect to you because it’s beautiful, raw and real. There is nothing more attractive than someone who is unapologetically themselves! By simply choosing love over fear and mastering your Mean Girl, you are making an impact on the world by sharing your light.
Master your Mean Girl with a simple 3 step process:
Start to become aware of your mean girl and the story she keeps replaying like a broken record. Ask yourself; where is your mean girl holding you back? How does that make you feel? Then grab out your journal and complete this sentence: My mean girl is telling me…
- Close the door gently
Make a conscious choice to close the door gently on your mean girl. Remind yourself that just because you think something, does not make it real. You have to do something different, if you want something different.
- Choose love instead
Make love your default setting. Reframe what your mean girl is saying into a positive affirmation.
If you haven’t already read Melissa’s book, Mastering Your Mean Girl, I highly recommend you grab a copy.
*** This giveaway is now closed***
To celebrate the launch of my life coaching business I am giving away a SIGNED copy of Melissa’s book. To enter, all you need to do is subscribe to my newsletter and comment below one way you’ve mastered your inner mean girl.**
Maybe you’ve mastered your inner mean girl by overcoming negative self-talk which has allowed you to love and nourish your body every single day. Perhaps you choose a positive affirmation at the start of each day to repeat to yourself when that inner mean girl chatter begins to get a bit too loud. Or maybe you are currently in the process of mastering her and you’re maintaining a daily meditation practice to quieten your inner mean girl.
I would LOVE for you to share your thought and experiences below.
Choose peace. Choose love. Choose light.
** Competition is open for Australian residents only. Competition closes 1 March 2017. Winner will be announced on 2 March 2017.