I began dealing with anxiety when I was about 21 years old and it coincided with starting Law School. When I would drive to Law School and I would suffer from excruciating pains in my stomach, so much so I could barely make the drive. This turned into full blown anxiety attacks where I would get that awful hold-cold clammy feeling as though I was going to vomit and I couldn’t breathe and would be in tears.
Now 8 years later anxiety is still something I deal with almost on a daily basis, but I have picked up some tips and tools along the way which can help me move through anxiety with ease and grace.
Interrupt anxious thoughts by saying…
What if it works out?
What if all my hard work pays off?
We have programmed ourselves to focus on what we don’t want, instead of what we DO want. So next time anxiety jumps in the driver’s seat, ask yourself these questions and shift your mindset. What if the situation actually does work out or if all your hard work pays off in your favour. It’s certainly possible don’t you think!
Meditation is something I am still working on getting into a consistent daily habit (I am almost about to hit a 3 week streak yay!) but I know how good it makes me feel when I do it. I highly recommend Insight Timer because it’s FREE and it has more than 5 million meditations! So you will be able to find meditations that resonate with you be it guided meditations, nature sounds, music, just a tool to mind the time for you and more! Meditation reminds us to BREATHE and helps us come back to the present moment instead of focusing on things that haven’t yet happened (and might not happen by the way!).
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) aka Tapping
Gabby Bernstein teaches that EFT is a psychological acupressure technique that supports your emotional and physical health. It combines the cognitive benefits of therapy with the physical benefits of acupuncture to restore your energy and heal your emotions. It’s easy and it gets results fast. Tapping is something I am training in at the moment so I can teach my clients how to use it, so let me know in the comments below if you would like a blog going more in depth on this tool. Check out Gabby Bernstein or Nick Ortner to learn more and there are countless Youtube clips teaching you how to tap.
“Peace begins with me”
This is a super simple Kundalini Meditation that my favourite teacher, Gabby Bernstein taught me.
Gently press your thumb against your index finger, then your middle finger, then your ring finger, then your pinkie finger.
When you touch your index finger, say: PEACE
When you touch your middle finger, say: BEGINS
When you touch your ring finger, say: WITH
When you touch your pinkie finger, say: ME
You can utilise this meditation anywhere!
Seeing a naturopath can really help give your body that extra support and I have personally been seeing one for the last few years. If our bodies are a bit off balance, say through a vitamin deficiency, then this can be a breeding ground for anxiety.
Talk to Someone
If there is one thing I have learnt is that people are not mind readers! So tell someone you trust how you are feeling and feel the release from simply getting it off your chest.
Change your physiology, change your psychology
If you have been following me for awhile, you all know I love the mantra, “Nothing changes if nothing changes” because it’s SO true. I used to sit on my couch ALL day riddled with anxiety hoping that it would just magically go away. Spoiler alert: it never did! So instead, get moving sister. Pump up the music and dance in your lounge room, go for a walk, shake it out and shake your body, make a soothing cup of tea and light a candle and some incense, do some yoga, walk to your mailbox. Just move in some way!
Sometimes in life we will find our in yucky situations and no matter what we do the anxiety is going to stick around for awhile. Perhaps a family member is unwell or our partner has cheated. So simply acknowledge the anxiety by saying “Ok anxiety I see you, you’re there” and just breathe into it for 90 seconds. A feeling can be transformed by 90 seconds of feeling it, so don’t ignore it…FEEL IT.
Share with me in the comments below your tools for moving through anxiety. And if you’re interested in learning more from me about tapping let me know below!